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Lung transplant patient Jessica Paringer loses her fight against cystic fibrosis
Jessica Paringer, the co-owner of Cuvee Wine Bar & Cellar in Bellbrook who received a double-lung transplant Feb. 13, died Sunday afternoon, March 8, at the Cleveland Clinic. She was 36.
“She died peacefully, her husband was with her, and she was not in any pain,” said Cindy Hill, a close friend who hired Paringer to work in the wine shop Hill founded as Cindy’s Wine Cellar, and later sold it to Paringer and Paringer’s husband, Chris Cavender.
Paringer suffered from cystic fibrosis, an inherited, chronic disease that affects the lungs and digestive system. The disease often causes death in the patients’ 20s or 30s.
Paringer was not diagnosed until she was in her teens, and was active in operating the wine shop until recent months, when the disease began taking an increasing toll on her, and she was placed on a lung transplant list.
On Friday, Feb. 6, she suffered a serious setback and nearly died. She was flown by a care-flight medical helicopter from Dayton to the Cleveland Clinic, where doctors stabilized her. Clinic officials then told her that a pair of donor lungs had become available, and on Feb. 13, in an operation that lasted nine hours, she received a new set of lungs, Cavender said in the days following the surgery.
Doctors initially were pleased with how the surgery went, but Paringer’s progress was slowed by how weak she had become in the weeks and months prior to the surgery, Cavender said. In addition, drugs used to prevent rejection of transplanted lungs can leave patients susceptible to infections and can have other serious side-effects, according to the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation.
Other Cuvee employees and friends of Paringer’s — including Hill — have been pitching in to help run the wine shop in Cavender’s and Paringer’s absence.
Services are pending, but Hill said the wine shop will be open Tuesday for those who wish to stop by and share memories and condolences.
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By Charlotte (Charlie) Riley (Pugh)
April 5, 2009 8:50 PM | Link to this
Dear Chris, Our family has loved you since you were a funny young kid in the orchestra! Our hearts are with you in the loss of your beautiful wife Jessica. Love you, CharlieBy rebecca
March 19, 2009 6:15 PM | Link to this
I was her cousin even thou she did not pay atenchion to me i still loved her after i heard about jessica died i knew i was not going to see her againe.i started to crye because i loved her soooooooo much i did not want her to die. This was a hard time for my mom dad and me and espescaly timmy paringer and davied paringer well i will just say it was hard on every body in my family and we knew that we alled loved her!!!!!!!!!. I saw her at miam hostiple when she had tubes in her noes so was doing sooooo good with her breathering and every thing.From now on i will always loove her, pictures of her i just wanted to cry sooooooo badly that jesscai is gone. Jesscia is in my heart forever and untill i die and if you are anybody who knows this and posted a comment or knew her or anything i wanted to say thanks for being soooooooooooooo nice caring and all of those nice words and jessica is proud of you all and she is saying thanks right now in heaven she is watching you gyes and loveing you soooooooooo much and thank you for coming to the party she loved that and rember she will always love all of us like a big family . she was just a great cousin in my life that i had i looooooooooooooooooooved heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeer so much. I love you all.I LOVE YOU jesscia.By Jeremy and Renee
March 17, 2009 8:19 AM | Link to this
We are so sorry to hear about Jessica’s passing. Jessica always brightened our day when we stopped into the store. Godspeed Jessica. You will be missed by all who knew and loved you.By Bill Payne
March 12, 2009 3:49 AM | Link to this
I am deeply saddened by this news. I too went to high school with Jessica. Our lockers were side by side all four years, and her smile and infectious laugh always brightened my day.By Tina Atkinson Winders
March 11, 2009 7:36 PM | Link to this
I went to high school with Jessica. I am in total shock. I didn’t know her very well, I didn’t ever know she was sick. I always seen her smiling and laughing and having a good time. It is a great loss to everyone and I know she will be missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with the families.By Allison Steiner Ilcken
March 10, 2009 8:59 PM | Link to this
Jessica will always have a special place in my heart. She was a very dear childhood friend to me. We spent most of our time laughing. She was so brave and strong and dealt with her disease with such strength. She could definitely light up a room! My thoughts, prayers and condolences go out to both families.By Sue
March 10, 2009 8:10 PM | Link to this
I was so sad to hear the news of Jeccica’s passing. I had high hopes for the transplant to work and restore her health so we would once again see her smiling face at Cuvee. She was such a special lady, always welcoming and friendly to all. She will be truly missed! Toast to our angel Jessica. My thoughts and prayers are with Chris and all the family & friends during this difficult time.By erin
March 10, 2009 8:00 PM | Link to this
I never met Jessica but I wish I had. It seems as though I have met her through a friend of mine. My condolences to Chris and everyone who had the opportunity to meet such a remarkable person.By Gretchen
March 10, 2009 6:25 PM | Link to this
I knew Jess growing up and remember her unending energy and smile. I am so sorry to hear this news. My thoughts and prayers are with her family.By Georgia Grant Fuller
March 10, 2009 4:54 PM | Link to this
I went to school with Jessica. She always had a friendly smile and wonderful outlook on life…she will be missed…By christine w.
March 10, 2009 1:44 PM | Link to this
Jessica had an amazing heart and a great sense of humor. I won’t forget the times we laughed so hard our stomaches ached. I will miss you cheesemonger. My prayers go to Chris and the rest of your family.By Cynthia H
March 10, 2009 8:32 AM | Link to this
I can’t seem to picture this world without Jessica so I know she’s still here somehow making us all laugh. The next time I sit at a stool in Cuvee and drink wine with friends, eat Chris’ great food, watch Jess roll her eyes, laughing at corny jokes, I will know she’s there. We were all blessed to have known her, however briefly.By Barb
March 9, 2009 11:28 PM | Link to this
Jessica I love you & will miss you…even though you weren’t REALLY GOING BLIND WHEN YA SAID YOU WERE……… lOVE YOU CHRISBy Wendy
March 9, 2009 9:27 PM | Link to this
Jessica’s joyful spirit will be sorely missed, but never ever forgotten. I’m sure that both Jessica and Todd are even now evaluating the pizza in heaven, and finding it inferior to Troni’s. To Chris and the Paringer and Cavender families, I pray God will bless you with peace in this time of chaos. We were priveleged to call Jessica a friend; now we will call her “angel.”By Julie
March 9, 2009 9:08 PM | Link to this
I couldn’t wait for Jessica to be born. She was the first grandchild and I so proud to be her aunt. She brought me joy from the moment I set eyes on her. She grew into a beautiful woman who thought always of others. When she was fighting for breaths of air, she so wanted to visit her grandfather who was also at Miami Valley. She has left a empty spot in my heart. I know she will be looking out for her family —until we meet again.By Gordo
March 9, 2009 9:05 PM | Link to this
Jesseica: We all will miss you very much! Chris, my most sincere condolences.By Carolyn and Don
March 9, 2009 8:28 PM | Link to this
We will miss Jessica and her wonderful laugh, her sincere honesty, her great sense of humor and her friendship. There is an Irish Angel up in heaven. Chris - Our thoughts and prayers are with you.By Gary Scheinbach
March 9, 2009 7:59 PM | Link to this
Jessia was a friend as well as a customer. I know much good wine will be opened in heaven on her entrance. I hope Chris and all of her devoted friends and family great memories and fond thoughts of our spitfire. She will be missed by many. One like her comes around rarely and burns out way too soon. GaryBy Teresa
March 9, 2009 7:19 PM | Link to this
Jessica and I had shared some fun experiences by going to the local Dayton community plays. We saw Hair (Dayton PlayHouse), Marilyn Monroe (Dayton Art Institute), the Dice House (Dayton Theatre Guild) and the Country Wife (Wright State University)! She supported the arts and festivals whole-heartedly. I remember seeing her at the Rembrandt show while I was a volunteer for that exhibit at DAI in 2007. It made me feel good to see her there. This past year she highly encouraged me to go see the Body Exhibit and offered to go with me if I could not find anyone even though she had already seen it. Jessica fought the good fight! She told me once I was courageous after I participated in the Dayton Dragons singing the national anthem tryout last March. I think it takes one to know one! Right? I will miss her in many ways. Teresa WilliamsBy Kacy
March 9, 2009 6:55 PM | Link to this
Jessica, I never wanted to see this day come. I know you are breathing free now, and that is all any of us ever wanted for you. I will think about you and miss you everyday. I will never forget the memories I have with you, for they were some of the greatest moments of my life. I love you so much.By A Misfit
March 9, 2009 6:47 PM | Link to this
To all of the misfit toys - We have lost one of our own. Nobody espoused acceptance better than Jessica. Some people learned alot from her and most people brought alot to our group while nobody was left out. If you had Jessica pulling for you in one of your own trials then smile for her now knowing that she got her wings. Chris you have a treasure waiting for you in heaven and my continuing prayers go out to you, all of the family members and the rest of the misfit toys. We are one less but now we have an advocate in heaven so when we find ourselves at the judgement table she will be there saying good things to tip the scales our way.By Gene Ruffing
March 9, 2009 6:13 PM | Link to this
Our community has lost a Shining Diamond. Jessica will be missed so much by her friends. She made other people’s lives better while always remaining enthusiastic about her own health. Most people didn’t even know due to her can do attitude. I will iss not being able to do all of those things we looked forward to doing once she could breathe normally. Jessica - Watch over us and every now and then laugh with us in our dreams. Love, GeneBy Rosemary Haemmerle
March 9, 2009 5:43 PM | Link to this
To the family of Jesica: In May of 2007 we lost our beautiful 29 year old daughter who had Cystic Fibrosis. She was on a transplant list. Our 26 year old son died 10 weeks later who also had Cystic Fibrosis. Our hearts go out to all of you and we want you to know we are praying for you and would help you in any way I can. Dan and Rosemary Haemmerle Springfield, OhioBy Ellen (Daniels) Hadley
March 9, 2009 5:29 PM | Link to this
Darling Jessica, I’m so sad to hear the news. We had so many good times in high school and I will cherish those memories. My love goes out to Sally, Greg, Daniel and her dad. Chris, we’ve never met, but I send my condolences.By Nancy Walton
March 9, 2009 4:38 PM | Link to this
I am so sad to hear the news about Jessica. She will be deeply missed. Each one of us who came to know her over the years are much better people knowing her as our friend. Her laughter, smile and kindness were contagious; her strength and courage were honorable. To Chris, her family and friends, please know that there are many people praying for you. May God give you peace during this difficult time.By Paige
March 9, 2009 2:43 PM | Link to this
I can’t even begin to list the ways in which Jessica enriched my life and words can’t really describe what she meant to me. She was truly an amazing person that I was so blessed to have in my life. She was my best friend & we would often call each other sisters, my heart aches for her. Even when things went bad & spirits were bleak, there wasn’t a conversation we had that we didn’t laugh. It’s those memories I cling to, the laughter, the hugs, the stupid things that we would find absolutely hilarious. I find solace in the fact that she is at peace now, breathing free, something that many of us take for granted, she can now experience. I love her & miss her greatly…By Danny and Diane
March 9, 2009 2:39 PM | Link to this
What a shock - We didn’t see this coming. We thought there was no way that Jessica would get anything other than better. We just found out a few minutes ago and it still hasn’t sunk in. Cuvee’s won’t be the same without her. Chris - our thoughts and prayers are with you. To the rest of Jessica’s friends and the regulars at Cuvee - let’s all have a glass of wine tonight and toast to Jessica’s loving memory.By null
March 9, 2009 1:56 PM | Link to this
I am sorry to hear about Jessica. A mutual frend had told me about the transplant. As I receive a lung transplant from Cleveland Clinic 7/31/08 I expected for her to make it.By Nikki Boesch
March 9, 2009 1:45 PM | Link to this
I am beyond sad with the loss of Jessica. We had so many great times…no one could make me laugh the way Jessica did. I have spent the day reading all of the letters/postcards she has sent me. She would always write “I am home…I have found the perfect place for me.” She is in the perfect place now. I just have to wait to hear it from her. I love you Chris and I thank you for all you gave to her. You are amazing.By Bill and Sheri
March 9, 2009 12:35 PM | Link to this
We saw Jessica just before she was taken up to Cleveland. She was as pretty and loving and fun as always (even with an oxygen tank at her side). She was the first of her generation in the family and she was very special.By Sonie Marzluff
March 9, 2009 12:32 PM | Link to this
Chris, I am so sorry to hear about Jessica. Your mother told us Saturday that she was not doing well. She has been in my prayers and so are you. God bless you and Jessica.By Julie Sarno Owens
March 9, 2009 10:22 AM | Link to this
I am so sadden by this news. Jess was a person of much life and laughter. I have thought of her many times over the years, particularly as my husband’s family suffered two losses to CF. My prayers go out to her and her family.By Chris Dorsch
March 9, 2009 10:21 AM | Link to this
I went to high school with Jessica. She was always an optimistic person, with a great smile and laugh. She will be dearly missed.By Janet
March 9, 2009 10:03 AM | Link to this
I honestly thought that Jessica would pull through this and would live to experience many new adventures. Her loss will be felt by the many, many people who knew her, loved her, and pulled for her throughout her battle. My heart goes out to Chris and her family and I hope they know that we are all here for them.By Shannon Schmid Trentman
March 9, 2009 9:37 AM | Link to this
Jessica was a dear friend from High School!!! I practically lived at her house growing up! I have SO many great memories of our times together and am sadden to loose a dear friend!!! We will all miss her!!By ernie and sue
March 9, 2009 9:27 AM | Link to this
Jessica had the best laugh. we will miss you dearly. give Papa Jack and Jody some love from us.By Shad
March 9, 2009 8:44 AM | Link to this
I am deeply saddened by this. My thoughts and prayer go to her family.By Jeff
March 9, 2009 8:16 AM | Link to this
She was a talented host and giving community activist.By cathy
March 8, 2009 11:44 PM | Link to this
Oh my, this is such sad, sad news… I don’t even know what to say or think. All my prayers to Chris and the families, as well as to all of us who will miss her dearly.By Melissa Hill Meredith
March 8, 2009 10:46 PM | Link to this
I went to high school with Jessica and spent a lot of time with her socially. She was an amazing teenager and I’m sure she was an even more amazing adult. I’m so very very sorry for your loss. My families prayers are with Jessica’s family.By Doug
March 8, 2009 9:43 PM | Link to this
What can one say - she will be missed - I am very very fortunate to have known her. I will miss her so much. What a wonderful, warm and generous person. I will forever remember our shopping trips to Columbus and her constant help for the fashion challenge (me). I will keep trying Jess. My thoughts and prayers for her family.By Lyn & Tony Boothby
March 8, 2009 9:31 PM | Link to this
We can’t believe it. She was so full of life and such a beautiful person, inside and out. She will surely be missedBy donna
March 8, 2009 9:11 PM | Link to this
Damm-I thought she would make it-she was so full of life and loved her wine-I will miss her insight-she had a wonderful palate.I always knew she would give a honest opinion when tasting wine-she would wiggle her nose and think for a moment and then hit you with her assesment-no flip-flop!! She loved Todd and I know that two great, beautiful people are toasting to us cry-babies right now!!By Nancy
March 8, 2009 7:57 PM | Link to this
This is so very very sad. I hope Jessica is in a better place and we will all meet up with her again.By Patty
March 8, 2009 7:48 PM | Link to this
My deepest sympathies. My husband and I always enjoy ourselves whenever we frequent Cuvee’s. Jessica always had a smiling face for everyone, especially those of us who were new to the wine world. She would welcome you with open arms. You would always feel right at home. My heart goes out to Chris and their families.By Joni
March 8, 2009 7:44 PM | Link to this
Very sad news indeed… Jessica will be missed by so many of us fortunate enough to have met her… her welcoming smile, her quiet grace. My heart goes out to Chris.By Toni and friends
March 8, 2009 7:38 PM | Link to this
It was our honor to meet such a warm and wonderful person as Jessica. She will surely me missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with Chris and the Cuvee family. Heaven has received another angel!By Harriet
March 8, 2009 5:30 PM | Link to this
I will greatly miss seeing Jessica around. Her warmth and good humor were contagious.By Rog and Jan
March 8, 2009 4:52 PM | Link to this
First Todd, now Jess. Why is it that the good ones die young. Oh how she (and he) will be missed.By Rosa & Kenny Delk
March 8, 2009 4:49 PM | Link to this
Our heart goes out to the family. We didn’t know Jessica but our family has been praying for her as we just lost our niece Aimee Brown, 26 who was waiting for a double lung transplant due to CF. We are so sorry for the passing of Jessica and know that her memory will be kept alive in your hearts. We will have your family in our thoughts and family.By MMarlin
March 8, 2009 4:41 PM | Link to this
We have lost a warm wonderful person. Jessica will be missed not only by those who knew and loved her but by those who never had the opportunity of meeting her. Our thoughts and prayers are extended to her family and friends.By Ann
March 8, 2009 4:09 PM | Link to this
Jessica will be missed! Because of who she was AND because she was always willing to give to the community. Regardless of her circumstances…she didn’t stop caring about others.By Brandice and John
March 8, 2009 3:55 PM | Link to this
For those of us who frequent the shop - we have lost a family member. Jessica’s red hair, her charismatic laugh and personality will be missed. Chris - our thoughts and prayers are with you.