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Sunday, July 12, 2009
McNair, a playa in the game
On Saturday, thousands attended the funeral of former NFL star quarterback Steve McNair. By now we have read the reports and stories of what took place in his condo early in the morning on July 4th. It was tragic, senseless and very sad for many reasons.
In football the rules are clear. The field is marked, your teammates are obvious, and jerseys are numbered. There is a playbook, a host of coaches and several referees to penalize players when the rules have been broken.
In the dating field, things are not so black and white. It is not always obvious who the real players are and who can handle playing the game mentally.
McNair knew the rules. He had been around for 36 years and knew how to play. And up until he met Sahel “Jenny” Kazemi, he had encountered women who knew how to play as well. Expect no commitment and you will never be disappointed.
Unfortunately, Kazemi wanted commitment and had designs on other things such as fame and fortune.
Kazemi was 16 years younger and fairly new to this sort of relationship. She thought that she was ready to play the game, but wasn’t quite mature enough for the big league. According to her family, she thought that McNair was going to divorce his wife so he could marry her. The truth is that no divorce papers existed.
The rumor is that McNair had actually begun dating another woman while he was still dating Sahel. Perhaps in Sahel’s naiveté, she assumed that McNair only cheated on his wife with her.
Rule #1: If he is cheating on his wife, he will cheat on you, too.
Rule #2: In relationships, your teammate sometimes can become your opposition.
Relationships are tricky even under the most “normal” circumstances. Steve finally played with someone who couldn’t handle the game.
According to reports that are circulating around the web, this was not the only mistress McNair ever had. Apparently, he dated a stripper from a club he owned and dated her for six years. Rumors are that she loved money, NFL players and McNair. She also just wanted to have fun. It sounds to me that she could handle playing the game and was an All-Pro.
It is easy to get sucked into superficialities. Whether it be beauty, money, status, or youth. We are all human and we all have lapses in judgment at some point in our lives. This situation prompts me to share a tidbit of my life. Something I never do.
I lost someone very dear to me because I got caught up in what I like to call flash. Thankfully, I got wise and recognized that all flash does is temporarily blind you from the true situation at hand.
McNair got used to the flash and now two lives are cut short over what? The thrill of the chase?
Luckily, I learned from my mistake and got out of the game before something detrimental occurred to me. Bottom line, nothing good comes out of being dishonest.
Let this be an entire cheerleading squad waving red flags in all our faces. Be careful! Hell just might turn out to be the person you are sharing your bed with.
My condolences to Steve McNair’s family, friends and fans.
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